Family or girlfrient or the pet. The bottom line is that you are setting yourself up for difficult times ahead. You gals have my sympathy. Accompany them and support them for as long as you can and then remind them why you joined together. You will be kept abreast of political changes within the church that regulate your wife's behavior -- you are probably already aware of several rules she follows. My advice is, as others have said, have no expectations, expect that you will spend the majority of holidays, birthdays, family gatherings, valentines day, anniversaries alone or with other family or friends. They require a healthy dose of flexibility, nontraditional expectations, and teamwork You aren't always gonna have a Christmas etc I can understand it would be hard to understand the cues you are getting if you have no basis for that lifestyle, but really think it over. You just need to figure out where your girlfriend is. You should want to keep things new and interesting, as you would in any relationship, while still allowing your date to maintain the standards of her faith. I have suggested a date night just for us but, he doesn't want a scheduled night for dates.
Their thinking is something like this. TwoXChromosomes subscribe unsubscribe 11, readers 6, users here now Welcome to TwoXChromosomes, a subreddit for both serious and silly content, and intended for women's perspectives. I tried to make the marriage work but we were at two different emotional places in our lifes. When we were dating he made it very clear to me that he had no desire to come back to church. I wish I could reach out to this girl and tell her not to pass up an awesome guy. It kills me that we are now diminished to a mere statistic. I just pray daily that no matter what we end up doing we are 30 min or less away from each other. I have been married to an anesthesiologist for 15 years his 2nd marriage.
These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term. Dude just to summarize what I think is the majority of the comments. Mormonism isn't a free ticket to heaven. Not having expectations, as others mentioned, is also key to reducing feelings of frustration. Should I stay or let him do his thing. He isn't in school and doesn't have much idea about what it is like to be in my shoes. That is why there are home teachers, friends, family members, neighborsвto provide priesthood blessings. Most of the doctors I know are either way older and in private practices where they can set their schedules a bit OR they're my age and still going crazy with residency hours.
Is your mind made up and you want justifying support. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal companion" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity. Marrying a non-Mormon is not something you do it is something that happens. If she says that the mission was the greatest experience and best two years of her life, any chance you have at a normal long-term healthy relationship is dim unless you convert.